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twenty-eight. windy city aficionado. just trying to figure it all out

Don’t allow your wounds to turn you into a person you are not.
- Paulo Coelho

Here’s conventional wisdom:

Success makes you happy. Happiness permits you to be generous.

In fact, it actually works like this:

Generosity makes you happy. Happy people are more likely to be successful.

- Seth Godin

The best thing you can do during big periods of change is simply flow with it. Resisting, fighting and struggling with situations that are out of your control only amplifies the discomfort.

This is where the practise of trust comes in. We do not need to know why something is happening or how it will be resolved. Instead we just trust whole-heartedly that we are exactly where we are meant to be.

Look beyond the surface, dig a little deeper and uncover the hidden value or supportive lesson that exists amongst the struggle you are experiencing. When you do, you will see that there is a divine reason behind everything that happens and it is all happening for your higher good.

- Connie Chapman (via liquid-diamonds-flowing)
humansofnewyork:

"My girlfriend caught me with another woman. Now she won’t even let me get my stuff out of the apartment! I said ‘C’mon, Sweetheart.’ And she said ‘Fuck you Motherfucker!’ I tried going back when she wasn’t home, to see if I could get the dog to open the door. But he was too small. Our last dog could open the door. But not this one."

Clearly, he’s an ass. But I cannot stop laughing at this. 

humansofnewyork:

"My girlfriend caught me with another woman. Now she won’t even let me get my stuff out of the apartment! I said ‘C’mon, Sweetheart.’ And she said ‘Fuck you Motherfucker!’ I tried going back when she wasn’t home, to see if I could get the dog to open the door. But he was too small. Our last dog could open the door. But not this one."

Clearly, he’s an ass. But I cannot stop laughing at this. 

If they miss you, they’ll call. If they want you, they’ll say it. If they care, they’ll show it. And if not, they aren’t worth your time.
Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Sometimes you’ll put up a good fight and lose. Sometimes you’ll hold on really hard and realize there is no choice but to let go. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.
- Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things (via lavender-milkshake)

In her book, Schulte recounts a study by Florida psychologist Anders Ericcson who wanted to understand what it took to be the best at something. He went to Berlin to examine the time logs of the most successful musicians and discovered that the virtuosos were those who practiced the hardest for no more than 90 minutes and took more breaks and naps than the musicians who weren’t as good.

“In the breaks, that’s where the ‘aha moment’ comes,” says Schulte. It’s in the moments of leisure time that the brain is working to solve issues so you can begin your next burst of intense work with a renewed perspective.

“When you look at human performance science, there’s such great evidence that working all of those hours really doesn’t get you where you want to go,” says Schulte. While you may be able to work a few 60-hour weeks, eventually you will be so burnt out that you lose the ability to be creative and innovative.

the chorus on this is perfection.

I’m no longer spending my life chasing time. Today is what it is. Tomorrow is what it will be. I’m not going to overthink any of it. Wherever I am at the moment is where I’m meant to be…there’s no better feeling than giving the present your full attention.
foxontherun:

(via Artilleriet | Inredning Göteborg)
Some women are
lost in the fire.
Some women are
built from it.